Slow and steady wins the race... hopefully!

[JWS]

Hey julia we are in the same boat as far as living alone and only a few friends around. I think that your idea for an art class is wonderful. that is the kind of thing that you need to be do right now. i think that if you focus of things like that you will find that it allows you to detach where as focusing on acatualy detaqching just keeps you thinking about it. i guess its detaching by distraction. if you have few distractions its time to create some new ones.

I agree that love is a choice, just look at our spouces. they thruly believe they are not in love any more because they have made that choice, of corse they have it backwards in their head about witch comes forst love or the choice. the ones here that have come back somewhere they have slowly made a new choice and love was waiting. I have the exact fear of detaching from her. if i am the only one who cares and i make my self not care then what is there?? but remember they are the only one who can fix this, so until they make the choice you are stuck and detaching will help you last long enough to still be there for them.