Another one joins the flock (Part II)

[Mike85]

Criminy - what a night last night.

Wife finally got the time to call oldest son to assure him that it was OK that he didn't go to scout camp. During their conversation, of which I heard his half (and part of hers, due to the phone being set so loud...), he told her that he never wanted to go to the camp but was afraid to say anything b/c she was determined to sign him up for so many things this summer. She apologized to him. Wow.

I was disappointed that wife didn't tell him to hand phone to me afterwards and b/c when I texted her to tell her "nice job" and how son was happier now, she sent a three-word "glad he's happier" reply. Part of me felt bummed, but the other part of me said to not read anything into it. Latter part of me is right.

Son's bf called to see if he could come over for sleepover. I told him OK. When his dad (my friend Dave) dropped him off, we ended up talking about stuff with my new job, football, more football, how I spent last weekend, more football, and then HE brought up wife and OM. I pointed out that I'd been working on GAL an didn't really want to get into that area. He said that he just wanted to give me a head's up on wife's excessive spending and thought I'd be interested to know that OM's "needy, Type A" behavior has managed to alienate a lot of the lake crowd and that wife and OM have been seen squabbling. I reiterated that as much as one would think I'd like to "dish," on them, I *really* was trying to focus on me and the kids and moving on. Moved conversation back to football.

After Dave left, a former co-worker called, kept me on the phone for an hour, thankfully about her own job search. Her only reference to my home sitch was giving me "props" for sounding stronger and for learning how to run the household.

Then, an old friend/frat brother called b/c he heard about my home sitch. Kept me on the phone 'til 1 am. It was fun to touch base and tell old stories, but whenever we got to the home life stuff, he could not believe that I was doing DB and kept telling me I was a "schmuck." He telling me that I was nuts for even THINKING of taking her back. I kept trying to explain how I still love her, want to work with her on fixing things, etc., but it was pointless. Thankfully, his lovely wife broke in to talk to me while he went to shoot at some raccoons that were attacking their garbage, and she told me that I was doing the right thing for me, for wife, for the kids, and for my family. She also tipped me off that her hubby was a few sheets to the wind and to take anything he said with a huge grain of salt. he got back on the phone, and I told him that what I needed most from him was his support, regardless of how he feels about my tack. He wound up by pointing out that he is my friend and Brother and will be there to back me, no matter what.

I was so drained by the time I went to bed. My sons and son's friend trashed the house - toys everywhere. I had spent waaaaaay too much time involved in wife/OM discussion and my mood reflected it.

Wife is coming over to snag the kids for the day. I'm going to be chipper with her and not obsess on our lack of contact yesterday. Since it has FINALLY stopped raining and is now sunny and nice, I'm going to spend some time outside. lawn's too wet to mow, hedges are too wet to trim, so just boppin' around, soaking up the sun, and knocking back a casual beer may be just the tonic I need.