Doesn't sound like you spoke to each other at all during the dinner pick up. Am I right? If I am correct I find it interesting that he was so gung ho to speak to you about his living arrangements etc.. as per your phone call where you calmly set your boundaries... Seems to me like he's going to try his darndest to continue down the same cake eating road he's been on for months now. I hope you continue to shake things up and ruin his comfort zone!
Originally Posted By: whatdidido YOu say things get tense when you are short with her and then when you do the littlest thing she is better. Sure she is. She's thinking "whew, he is going to make this easy on me." When my H made it easy on me, I continued the wrong path.
SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS, SISTAH!!! PuppY]
Is there equivalent female Joe Friday for me?
Sunny
Some suggestions:
- Suze Orman
- Margaret Thatcher
- the character "Joyce Davenport" on the old "Hill Street Blues" tv show
(((Sunny))) You are doing well , but how are you feeling inside? Are you now focusing on how to bring happyness into your life without H ?
I'm feeling really well, inside & out.
I have a great life Dave, I'm really fortunate. I was thinking during my run, what a beautiful day it is here & how I'm just now getting to the point where I can fully enjoy them.
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Doesn't sound like you spoke to each other at all during the dinner pick up. Am I right? (W2G)
Actually, he made several attempts at getting more attention, ie; came back into the house to P/U sweatshirt for S5 (75 degrees outside, a little nippy ), came up to get me b/c S wanted a back scratch b/f going to sleep, waited in the bathroom until I was out of S's room & then made another trip to his car to give me car registrations, etc.
I was a polite Joyce Davenport (Thanks Pup!), & stuck to the necessities.
I did see him walk to my car & look inside (for the marina parking maybe), also gave me a funny look/stare when I handed him the sweatshirt, & blocked my exit when I tried to leave as they were returning from dinner, wanting to know if I'd be gone long.
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Seems to me like he's going to try his darndest to continue down the same cake eating road he's been on for months now. I hope you continue to shake things up and ruin his comfort zone!
You bet! He prolly wonders what happened to his fantasy world. Now he has only OW, who's now apparently jobless & has plenty of time to spend w/him now.
Before he left for dinner, as I was walking by, S5 asked him when he could started having sleepovers with us (Bless his little heart) & fixing him toast in the mornings.
He sighed & said he has to work, but they'll have a sleepover at his place on Friday. S5 asked again today why I won't let daddy come to stay at our house.
Anyway, Onward & upward it is, there's no turning back to the way it was.
- the character "Joyce Davenport" on the old "Hill Street Blues" tv show
I loved her!! She was sooooo cool.
Oh, yeah, she was. She was smart and pretty and sexy and tough as nails, and as devoted as she was to Frank, she never took any of his crap, either. Ideologically his opposite, she would go toe-to-toe with him and not give an inch, and then they'd end up making up and making out, LOL.
Or they wouldn't. Sometimes the argument was SO spirited, and so much a matter of her personal integrity, that she'd tell Frank that "I"m sorry, I think I need to be alone tonite."
Even though I ran a spyware detection the other day & it came out clean, thanks to one of my intense premonitions tonight, I came home & started looking through my computer.
I went to add/remove programs & found this file Virtual Key
I feel sick.....it's a keylogger put out by Kbd software.
Then I see 3 other files next to it like MSXML 4.0 SP2 (KB927978), I guess he ordered all they have.
So, I guess that means my life has been an open book to him.
I don't even know what to say, I'm stunned!
Puppy, should I remove it all now. Is it as easy as just deleting the file?
Amazing, this man leaves his family, has an ongoing affair & has the nerve to put a keylogger on my computer.
Just when I thought he couldn't do anything else to hurt me.
Sunny, I am sorry. This man is trying so hard to control you and your life. He NEEDS to feel he is still in charge. I bet you feel "violated". Awful feeling... Do you have any PC wizzard friends that could come and check your PC? Is there anything in your emails and PC that would seriously harm you? Can you act "as if" and pretend you don't know about it? Can you type a few things pretending you are unaware of his doings and get a message across to him? Proceed with caution. Love K
), came up to get me b/c S wanted a back scratch b/f going to sleep, waited in the bathroom until I was out of S's room & then made another trip to his car to give me car registrations, etc.