They need to be held accountable for there actions. This is something I have done all along and everytime I found something I cofronted H. I do not think we would have come as far as we have if I hadn't held him accountable. We still have a lot of work to do, H is still going through withdrawl from his EA/OW co worker(on his part only) fantasy But I have the feeling that will come to a head soon. As I will be addressing this at the right time as I have done all of the waiting that I feel I can.
Right now I don't know if I would have done any thing different for sure. The only thing I can think of that maybe I could have done is Kick his a$$ to the curb. It would have been a lot easier for me emotionally to distance and GAL.(which im'e still working on and it's been a long time) It's very hard while they are living with you and still in the marital bed with all of the benefits.(which I feel has kept him with me but, kept him from doing work.)
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
As I will be addressing this at the right time as I have done all of the waiting that I feel I can. 