I do worry thought that detaching too much will mean I am letting go of my h, and I know that is the point, but it is scary. It is really hard to keep love alive when you are being treated so and I don't want to lose that love...
I believe Love is a choice and if that is true then you need not worry about losing the love for your H. The love will alwsy be there for your husband if you choose to let it be there.
I don't think that you can detach enough. I think it's imperative that you detach. You must be detached beyond detached in order to draw them back..
I'll tell you what, you want a prime example?? I'll give you prime example on this site. i want you to look up GForce. He's over in piecing now. Just moved there today. At the start of each one of his threads he post links to all his threads. Go to his first post and start reading. You'll see when he detached. You'll also see how his W's fog lifted in the 11th hour.
Julia--you can't detach too much. Until you really "let it go" they won't "see" the real you. When you move on, truly move on then lots of times they come running back.
You have lots of reading to do if you choose. He's got about 15 threads probably...
