Alien invasion 3.0

[hoosiermama]

Thank you, Puppy. I had a great attorney 18 years ago, plan to contact him in the next week. It's only fair and appropriate that H pay my attorney fees, since he's the one who wants this.

Not to doubt your faith, but I'd love to hear more about how I can save my marriage at this point. Yes, I think he'll eventually wake up, but even then I don't know that he'll want to come back. In reality, the marriage hasn't been great for several years; nowhere near as abysmal and miserable as he's telling me, but I haven't been happy either, and I would have given my right arm to work on it--but he wasn't emotionally present in any way except anger. He checked out a long time ago, me more recently just as a way of coping. The difference is, he found an exit affair, I just escaped into reading. I was pleasant and tried to build on things when he was approachable, and withdrew into books or surfing the rest of the time. Wish I'd known I'd need it--I could have used DB quite some time ago. Didn't know it existed.

Anyway--any ideas? I'm quite ready to drop the rope.