Is this the end ? (Soul Mate Final)

[buster80]

let me sum all this up i suppose. 5 weeks ago W admitted to kissing her ex-bf, said she needed space and time to think. I volunteered to move out (nice guy) so my son could stay in his home and she had a place to cook for him. well my first night out, OM slept over. came home, caught them, kicked him out; she wanted a divorce at this point. begged and pleaded for 3 or 4 weeks for her to snap out of "it." fast forward to this week.....W's best friend (girl) and her best friend's boyfriend got kicked out of their apartment so my W offered to let them stay in our house for a couple of weeks til they found a place.(i agreed since i don't want her to be alone and i know them) The 3 of them have been house hunting (for the couple I thought), but since my wife has an extreme fear of being alone at night, and it would be cheaper than living at the house we own, she informed me she would most likely move in with them in their new home. also as for going back to school (she's 22, dropped out at 19 when she wanted to party some more) to get a degree, "another party" offered to help pay her way(OM). for the past 2 weeks, I have been nice as pie, not letting my feelings get in the way of things. We have not talked about our relationship ONCE in those 2 weeks, nor have I told her i missed her or loved or "please come back." I've been DB'ing (or so I thought). she has been really nice, we've got along great, etc. I have not agreed to a divorce, she has not filed. what could I possibly tell her to get her to stay in our house, or reconsider our R, or stop her from taking OM's money for schooling ? Most likely, everyone on here will tell me NOT to help her pay for school, to let her move and sell our house (one less bill). I am being nice and telling her i'm proud of her for pursuing a degree, and when she mentions the house hunting, i say "well it sounds like you are planning things out" and leave it at that. background check on OM.....they dated in high school, he left her for some reason (who cares) now she thinks that since he came back, it's her last chance. i was kicked to the curb. She sees him every chance she gets; I'm living with mom and dad. both our families and friends know, and frown upon what she's doing. However she "needs to make her own mistakes" as her parents put it.