It wasn't so much hearing the word, because it's been out there before. It was hearing the plan to rush it ahead, followed by absolute disregard for what I need to get through the pain he's caused.
I know--believe none of what he says. However, I do believe this. It's consistent with what he's wanted since the beginning--just 2 months ago--out of the blue, to be out of the marriage. I don't think he'll change his mind, and certainly not during the time it will take to process the divorce--it is very quick. He claims--don't know if this is true--that he's been working 3 years in therapy toward this point. I've also had a couple of close, long-time friends tell me they're not surprised, the marriage has long been tension-filled.
He absolutely won't do anything that he isn't sure isn't 100% against us. He wants to be done, to move on, shake the dust from his feet and build a life with OW. She'll dump him soon enough and it will all be for nothing. But right now it looks very attractive to him and he is euphoric with love.
I wish I could detach. I am trying.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
