Can you give an example of one of your fights (i.e. i said this then he said that...etc, etc). Looking at a "transcript" might be helpful in how to break the trend. It takes two to escalate a fight, but one to stop it.
I agree you shouldn't take the whole blame...after all, this DB wouldn't be worth a thing if you are not happy at the end of it. One of the things my IC had once said to me was to use "I" statements instead of "You" statements, it gets the point across without it seeming like an attack and is less likely to put him on the defensive which is why most things escalate....
"I don't like it when I am criticized all the time about how I keep the house up, I really am trying very hard" instead of "You are never happy with the job I do in keeping the house and you never give me any credit at all"
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
