H is having affair after all - part 3

[Evie]

HI Jen_Jam,

Just the tactics i'm using atm.

However, i'm torn between 2 ways of thinking- head and heart.

I need - or feel i should - get all my financial documents to the solicitor for her to work out what she feels is teh best settlement for me.

My gut (or heart) is saying sit on it all and don't rush to do anything.

Then we have my practical head that says dont let the heart rule, stop putting off the inevitable, get the documents to the solicitors, do it know while we're on the back off his lies, lets get the ball rolling, lets move on. Move onto a smaller place easier to maintain and run, my own place, whether rented or bought. Lets cut as many ties as possible.

I'm not stalling in the belief or hope that H will decide to come back, b/c i know he wont and i dont want him back, i'm stalling from the point of view that its my & my kids comfort zone, its what we know, its our security, we dont want the change.

You should see H, he's working his a*s off to get the decorating & the jobs done, its a pity he couldn't do it previously.


I think the fog has lifted, he's walking about talking to people as if nothings happened, that pisses me off.

He emailed me yesterday about business and boy arrangements, i had to reply briefly and at the bottom i said

'i take it after sundays bbcue that you two are an item after all. When you said it was over before it even got started and you had no intention of going back to her, you were lying'.

I haven't heard back and i didn't expect to, I dont want to. I just wanted him to know that the news had fed back to me and that i knew and i wanted to point out that i knew he had lied again. It wont serve any purpose i know.

Any advice on what to do with my documents? Start the ball rolling or stall?

x

PS Jen - please email me the pictures, i'd love to see them. I've never being to a festival, but there is a first for everything.

xxxx