I know my W is hanging out more with the single group, just because our married friends arent totally in agreement with her partying motives and it's not their lifestyle at this point in their lives. I havent transformed back into my college frame or state of mind and I still like my married friends. I really dont have any desire for a girlfriend right now as that is a barrier to my ultimate goal.
As for mediation, we went through a mediation for some parenting time with the kids. She wanted the kids over the winter holidays. She wouldnt budge or accept any proposals I offered, so we went to mediation. We were in different rooms, so she never interacted with me. She ended up settling on a weaker proposal for her than I had offered earlier. In fact, I made a proposal to the mediator and said I'd take either side of the offer, that's how fair I believed it was. After mediation, she got in the elevator with me and her lawyer. She acted as if I was a total stranger. She later apologized, but I let her know how rude I thought she was for doing that.
So, I dont anticipate we will be spending any time together in mediation. I do think she will hear about the concert through our mutual friends. The other thing I can do is have a few parties at my house. One of her best friends who dumped her husband moved in right behind my fence. I think she was a terrible influence on my W and has made her feel that doing what she is doing is absolutely the right thing to do. Misery loves company. So, I guess that's one way to show her that my social life is blossoming by having a few wild parties.
