W is not in the house and living on her own because she needed a break to figure things out, to find a job, and tit for tat because I had 8 months with no responsibilities(except of course to make all the money to support the family), she wanted one too. She pays for gas, groceries, rent, and utilities where she lives. I've got everything else covered. She sees the kids whenever. It's supposed to be like when I was 4 states away for a new job. I tried to make it really like she was 4 states away and she "visited" for a weekend every 2 months. I figured if she couldn't get her Mommy fix, she would have a chance to really miss the kids. I especially didn't want this to turn into some strange trial divorce. Ha!! What an idiot I was.
Now, she says my snooping has clinched the deal, we are going to get a divorce. A very very real part of me wants to sing the friggin Halleluia Chorus because I am sick and F'ing tired of all this crap. I want to have my own little MLC thank you very much and chase every attractive woman I see. EXCEPT, I have these three little kids that I love and this wife that I love too.
So, we've talked more about the logistics of shared custody of the kids and using her address to get the kids into public school in a better school district versus the private school that they've been attending.
ANYWAY, I'm thinking of bringing up at our MC that if she wants a D, we can start by sharing custody and she can start the following Sunday and we will trade off every other week, and one of the parents will live in the house with the kids and in the off week, she will go to her little apartment and I will either rent a place of my own, or stay with friends.
Part of me thinks this is a good idea and part of me thinks this is a completely moronic idea. I hope that a few of you have more brains than I do and can give some good feedback.
