Hey T, how are you doing today? Yes, the LBS will for a time spin everything in a positive light. I did it.
Did you go to the concert by yourself? I caught up with some of your history and the reason that I ask about the concert is that it seems like you aren't very social. In fact, your sitch reminds me of mine in ways. When we met W was a social butterfly and I was a troll that lived under the bridge. I assumed I could piggy back onto her social circle. It didn't work out that way and a couple of years later, we had no social life. Now, she is out of the house and again a social butterfly. I have the kids and trust me, I know how much harder that makes it to be social. BUT, I can't imagine my W coming back unless I grow to be as social as she is. She is not going to come back to a R with no social life, ever. I asked about the concert because from what I've read, your social calendar seems to be about as empty as it was a year ago. I want you to try on an idea. Consider that if you never had much of a social life, then your W was your social outlet. When W leaves, at some level, she knows that she has power over you because she ran off with your social outlet. If you grow and develop a thriving social network of your own, that shows that you are going to be OK without her and takes your power back. Over time, it will also show that you've changed and if she came back, she wouldn't have to leave behind the fun of having a thriving social circle. Don't misunderstand, I haven't accomplished this yet, but, I do believe that it is essential if there is any hope of us building an awesome new M.
