let me sum all this up i suppose, i'm rambling because of my nerves. W's best friend (girl) and her best friend's boyfriend got kicked out of their apartment so my W offered to let them stay in our house for a couple of weeks til they found a place.(i agreed since i don't want her to be alone and i know them) The 3 of them have been house hunting (for the couple I thought), but since my wife has an extreme fear of being alone at night, and it would be cheaper than living at the house we own, she informed me she would most likely move in with them in their new home. also as for going back to school to get a degree, "another party" offered to help pay her way(OM). for the past 2 weeks, I have been nice as pie, not letting my feelings get in the way of things. We have not talked about our relationship ONCE in those 2 weeks, nor have I told her i missed her or loved or "please come back." she has been really nice, we've got along great, etc. I have not agreed to a divorce, she has not filed. what could I possibly tell her to get her to stay in our house, or reconsider our R, or stop her from taking OM's money for schooling ? Most likely, everyone on here will tell me NOT to help her pay for school, to let her move and sell our house (one less bill). I am being nice and telling her i'm proud of her for pursuing a degree, and when she mentions the house hunting, i say "well it sounds like you are planning things out" and leave it at that.
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
