My beef. I had to have all this drama over the dang mattress board. I don't want it is dirty. Then she takes it anyway. I want the beds. I'm not taking them, because you will cry. Ok. Go buy them I'll pay for them just give me a receipt. Can you pick up the beds with your truck she'll pay for them. It never ends goes in a circle.
No different then the time we were dating and she needed high heels. First store had them. Well lets look around two hours later and 50 stores later looking at every single shoe. She bought the shoes she saw at the first store. I should have ran then.
Of course I wouldn't give my son ice cream after 9. However anything goes with her always did. They can eat whenever they want. Go to bed when ever they want. Never disciplined only by her. When she would come to her wits end at the end of the night she would ask me to get involved. When I did she would say leave them alone. I'm you just asked me to discipline them.
You see it makes her look like the best buddy, daddy is the mean one. I would call her the big eraser. She would ask me to discipline them and I would. Then she would say ok do what you want kids daddy didn't mean it.
When these kids are with me. I don't have problems with them. I nip them the bud fast.
No Ian, she is causing the damage and always has.
They stay up late. They do what they want. They push her buttons constantly. She screams at them and they laugh in her face. She created this mess.
Another thing she also uses poor language behavior around the kids. I would always ask her not to do that, but she did it anyway.
I'm telling you what. When them kids are just with me. They are angels. If they step past the line, I'm firm and discipline promptly. I don't have to ask them twice to do something. Go brush your teeth.
Their mother would ask them twenty times and they still would not listen.
Ian, I'm really really screwed here with everything. I'm not going to change her parenting behavior. I'm not going to change her behavior on our relationship.
It's easy for you to look at the problem from your perspective.
Everytime I get these kids now. I have to immediately deprogram their behavior and how they talk to me.
I have a rug in my great room. If they are out of line they stand on one of the squares.
Now I think I already told this story. They hate standing on the square and it may only be a couple of minutes. Then I ask them if they want to stand on a square all day. They say no and then start behaving.
Now please... She is using these kids to get to me. Showing up here unannounced. She is exhausted because those kids will were you down if you let them. She always lets them.
I told you she went from a devoted mother to a woman that doesn't even want to be around the kids.
Well she created them as monsters. I believe I handle the problems with the children properly. She does not and never has. She waited on them hand and foot and now she wonders why they can't get their own drinks or snacks. Then they constantly want to eat something and something different. She ran it like a resturant. Her justification was that the kids will never go to bed hungry because they want to eat late. She remembers as a kid going to bed hungry because her parents would not let them eat something late.
Well if you eat properly during the day then you don't need to eat late, but she doesn't grasp that concept.
Amy started something with that with me about our parents. Her parents formed her into the opinions she has today. I went to bed hungry so I'll never let that happen to my kids.
Then she wonders why she was so exhausted at the end of the day and then our son would be crying that he was hungry.
I think the first three years the woman didn't even sleep because our son constantly wanted his milk in the middle of the night. Even in periods of his toddler stage where he shouldn't have been drinking milk in the middle of the night.
It was easier for her to just give him the milk then to hear him cry. Breaking them of the pacifier. WHHHHHHHHHHHOOOOOOSHH! Don't get me started. I didn't sleep for two weeks.
If I would point out something I thought would work better she would say. Don't tell me how to be a mother, I am a good mom.
Ok... whatever... The woman has issues. Remember I said part of me doesn't want her to come back, because there is no way she can act the way she did. Well now it is becoming a big part of me.
We all parent differently. They don't come with manauls. Some of us do a better job then others. I mean we would look at some of our other friends and be like they are so goofy at what they do. They looked at us and most likely say the same thing.
