Piecing this jigsaw puzzle together

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I'm glad to hear you got to some of the issues you are concerned about. The porn thing is going to be a hard issue to address. Your H is going to find it very easy to get defensive. So probably just stating how this is an issue that causes you to lose trust, or that its hard for you be intimate with him when you know he's looking at other women. IDK. It was hard for me too, and I'm not really sure what made my H stop. (well, I haven't caught him again anyways) But I know the last times he did it, I caught him doing a little more than watching and it shocked me and I said something like "geez, you couldn't wait for me?" kinda teasin and flirting. and instead of getting freaked out or sad about it, I just made light of it joking, and perhaps I even said something like, well if you wanna finish with me in the bedroom, I'll be waiting!

I really can't remember, but that's the last time I've seen him on it, and that was over a year ago.

I remember reading Michelle's thoughts about looking at the porn with them or something and it makes it less of an enticement to them. Although I don't agree with porn at all, and it's kind of hard to act like you don't care when your totally against it.