Bill - You would never offend me. I can't tell you how grateful I am to read your posts. I am amazed at how you are able to have your finger on the pulse of this. I look forward to your responses and believe me, they have had a major impact on me. I have read many of them multiple times. So even if you did offend me - I don't care - i know you have my best interests at heart.
Again thanks for this advice. I guess I am just frustrated because there is no way she will go to a psychiatrist. In the past when she has been troubled - she was the type to recognize it and seek help. Now there is no way.
You are so right about her losing the joy in her life and having no idea why.
And everything else you said is spot on. Thanks for getting me back on track. When i read your post I find it giving me more of a PMA. Beginning right now I am back to the lovingly detached guy that was making progress and will stop harping on every word.
I will also go on the trip - because she asked me to and a good friend has put it into great perspective for me.
Your line about her greatest fears is true. She said it in MC when she was still going with me.
Thanks again for getting me back on track - I really needed that. Although I wish I could understand why I slide the other way sometimes. I don't even notice it happening. I think it's because I'm still scared to death to lose her no matter how strong I feel. It's always there. At least tonite I am finally feeling a little rejuvenated.
Thanks again! I can do this.
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"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.