2 steps forward, 3 back

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After 2 days of no contact and talking to lawyers about my sitch, I called H and told him to stop avoiding me and call me, we could do this easy or the hard way. He called right back to see he hadn't been avoiding me. Said he wasn't hiding OW. I said he wasn't honest or forthcoming about it. All I ask for is honesty. Told him I didn't feel her sleeping in a tent with my S12 and D8 was appropriate. Of course he disagreed. Says he introduced her to the kids 2 wks ago and only met her 4 before that. So 6 weeks and this ga ga already? Arghhhh. Has he learned nothing? Spoke w/f-i-l who he lives with and he is as miserable as I am, and basically told me to take legal action and threaten him into reality. He wants to sell his house because he wants him out but won't throw him out. H told him wait a year and I will buy it!! F-I-L said no! Good for him! He didn't want to say too much but basically says he is immature, acting like a teen and doesn't like the home invastion of OW. They eat there every night together. Ewwww. Sorry. Lawyers say there is really nothing I can do about overnights, no matter how inappropriate. It is sad as a parent to lose control. Does anyone else agree? I am going to fight him for more than the 50/50 that he wants. He will never agree but I am going to say then we will go to court, spend money, bring up OW tent, d8's therapist (my side, behavioral issues with her) as proof and I think they will side with me-I hope! But I would rather convince him it isn't worth all of that and just agree as I am only asking for one more day. I just have to put it a way he understands.

But don't get me wrong, I am trying to be reasonable and fair. I feel better just having said some peace and we agreed to a sit down next week. I am going to be sure there are no time restrictions on it and am going to write notes for myself on things. Any suggestions?