"Ok, I am willing to work with Forrest to do whatever we can to help move this stitch along. I think perhaps it does take both sexes in these issues to learn from each other and how to handle certain things."
I agree 110%.. I told Christa.. I need the "Drama" to be able to figure things out. Also I am somewhat lacking in helping someone who has been stung.. It's my gruff manner and all.
"As weird as it seems to most females that anger proves he still cares.....perhaps FG is right about this. I suppose if he just plain did not care one way or the other....there would be absolutely no signs of any emotion. But what concerns me about you, Christa,can you handle the sting from your H?"
So Sandi2 can see it to.. I really question whether you are up for the sting. I was not sure how to get it across in a way you might understand.. but I think Sandi2 nailed it.
"Hummmm, well, we may need a third party to help us here b/c I've lready stated how "poking" affects me if I'm mad."
That is where I step in. I am good at being a DAM. Remember I am the King.. and they all report back to me. I have a handle on when she is pushing to hard from my perspective. Listen if I planed this right.. I am going to be way outnumbered. I am glad you jumped in with both feet. We are off to a good start.. I think. I reserve the right to take that statement back.
"It is fine to be soft, gentle, warm and caring, but she better put a suit of amour on when she starts to "poke" and for goodness sake.....don't show fear and don't back down. On the other hand (just what you wanted to hear, right Christa?) If she was to show a soft and warm "strength" about her without any signs of fear or desparation........something to think about."
Right here Sandi2 you are on to something. This right here is what we need to focus on. Right now she needs to learn how to be bullet proof.. I need to focus her "womanly" powers. Again.. I am not good at that. You are. Hence my cry for help.
"The first thoughts to come to my mind is a low self esteem problem."
I think you are right to a point. Christa is a little hottie (She looks good) trust me on that. From her personality I can tell she would have no problem "getting" anyone. A lot of things have compounded on her.. and the one thing (person) she wants.. is hard to reach for.. I think because she does not know how. She can't chase him.. and yet she will need to chase just enough.. to start the process. Trust me when things go bad (if they do) we will have to go to support mode. She needs to relearn how to be "Coy" with that guy she wants. He is going to fight her..
The rest of what you wrote Sandi2 was Gold!!
Trust me we are not that far off.. you have the exact same fears I do.
Now.. its time to
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
