"Blame wastes emotional energy on resentment and anger. It defeats the purpose of uncomfortable emotions, which motivates behavior that heals and improves our lives."
Blaming yourself or your spouse....
i got this from a website - cant remember which...but it is very helpful and i have it posted on my computer with a post it....
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