H2TE, in my case MC while H had OW was a waste of time and seemed to do more harm than good, for us. We also have other issues besides OW, but our MC said as long as there were 3 in the marriage that C would do no good. She said that as long as OW was involved that H wasn't doing anything, just skating. She described it as a triangle where H was having his needs met by both of us (me & the Troll.) As long as we were willing to let it stay that way then it would, with the only benificiary being H. As long as the triangle remains intact, there is no need for anything to change, it is essentially stable and through both the Troll and I continuing to accept less than 100% from H, nothing changes. Why should it? Its cake eating at its finest. I finally stopped because as long as she was/is in the picture - there is no marriage to work on. When and if he is ever able to stop seeing her (romantically) then and only then will there be an opportunity for us to try and put it back together. But thats just me.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
