I've told my h countless times that if he would just sit still and work on our marriage, then once our marriage is improved, I would move with him anywhere he wants to go (even his dream of moving to TN -yuck). But right now, I can't trust him and I can't live with him. His response to that is always that "we can work on our marriage no matter where we live." True. But, we can't LIVE TOGETHER yet! Now, I'm way more inclined to move to Santa Maria then I ever would be to TN, but NOT RIGHT NOW.
You're also right about the blame game escalation. Anyway to get away from that without taking the entire blow for our marriage problems? He doesn't think he needs help. I won't take him back without it.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
