HU, Lyn..welcome...our sitch's are very similar..my h moved out tho, last Nov..it has been the best thing that has happened..I know that sounds strange to say..but we were going to go nowhere with him still here..he felt like he needed the spacvce alone...to find himself..ff involved..but she found new man that was not married, but my h and she are still firends..work together..your family has had alot going on, in a stable m, those things can be stressful let alone a shaky m.Keep taking care of you, I learned that early although I was so hurting that he moved and would forget me, us..he has not..he is coming around slowly..changes in yourself affect the whole r and it makes you feel good too.