Thank you so much for posting and for all your support, as I am naturally reactional it is great that I can vent that here and get it out my system so that I don't project it on h.
I'm definitely handling this better than last week. I feel I have detached a little more as last week I felt let down and disappointed whereas my reaction this time was more of frustration that I just want to get on with things really and am tired of making half plans on the off chance. It is really important that I fill my weekends as they are my danger time.
JWS - Thank you for reminding me that time is a good thing. The only thing is that I worry because house prices are dropping so dramatically and I really would be stuck if they go down much more so if this is going to happen I'd really rather it was sooner than later. But that is of definite secondary importance to my marriage and if I come out with hardly anything I'll just take myself off traveling if we stay split. Luckily I have my birthday pedicure to fall to look forward to this weekend. I've never had one before!
Wifey - thank you, you made me smile again
Pisces - the only reason I don't leave the money thing is we would get almighty bank charges as they rip you off hugely. I wish I could just trust that he would put the money in automatically but it has never happened and we have been charged so much in the past. Thank you for reminding me that his actions aren't to do with me though, I always take it personally and it isn't at the moment.
TwinDad - you know I might try and inject some humour into the next interaction. That is very old me and something I haven't tried before. You are also right that he obviously let me know as soon as he knew he had goofed which is a huge step in the grand scheme considering his behaviour and how previously he has been known to let me know about 2 hours after he was supposed to turn up!! Maybe why that is why I get so instantly incensed now! I need to let that go.
Mike - thank you so much for reading through and posting. I am trying really hard to detach but it seems to be taking me a long time. I really tend to beat myself up which doesn't help, even if it's about taking too much time in detaching I can't seem to accept failure in any shape or form even if it's just my own perception of failure! I hope that I have self-awareness though and usually know when I am reacting not detaching so it helps me in a taking a step back - even if it's a few hours/ days later
Jeff and Kenny - thank you for stopping me sending a reactional terse message, it wouldn't have helped the situation in any way.
Hugs everyone! Wow, this really is the most difficult thing I've done.
I can't seem to accept failure in any shape or form even if it's just my own perception of failure! I hope that I have self-awareness though and usually know when I am reacting not detaching so it helps me in a taking a step back - even if it's a few hours/ days later 
