Thanks Shinybear for your thoughts. I agree with you about the depression. But I don't know quite what to do about it. I have been visiting with his Mom in the hospital and trying to be supportive to him. However, he has been really quiet around me. Also, short, distracted and bordering on rude. But when he is with others--very friendly. Helpful to a fault. Almost obsessed with helping others. As if he is in some kind of good samaritan competition. Don't get me wrong. I am also a kind person who likes to be helpful to others but with H it is an obsession. He can spend all day almost every moment he is not at his own job helping others. For instance, he spent about 8 hours one Saturday building a deck for a friend. Came home - mowed the lawn for a neighbor, took out their trash and then did yard work for another neighbor until he dropped dead asleep. No one even asked for this help. But this is what he does all the time. As for us, not much movement one way or the other. Our anniversary was pretty good. he gave me flowers and we went out for dinner. This was a surprise as he had plans to go to a party. He went to the party and came home early to go to dinner. This was nice. So as you can see there are improvements. I am just worried about him because of his stress and he seems to be hurting. Any suggestions? Lyn
