(( Peace )) No matter how long we are on this board, its still sad when hearing of someone who is starting the D.process.
I take it that you were not expecting the papers to come? I know how that is, I too was blindsided, by the bomb, out of the blue and then again w/ the D papers , when I had pleaded w/ him to tell me if that was going to be the route he chose. He did not. Surpise!
To tell you it will be all right sounds like a broken record, but the reason people tell you is,--- it IS going to be ok.
I am 2 yrs post D, over 6 yrs bomb- and I love my life now! I am engaged to a wonderful, terrific man. My S , a young adult now respects me, and we have a great R.
Never ever would I of thought it, and I fought for at least 4 yrs for my M, kicking and screaming to D court, I loved my H with every thing i had and like yours he was aloof , cold and robotic.
Well, I do not know if its because I have let the anger go, I have forgiven him ( although he didnt ask!) He wants to be friends, he is friendly, nice, and really enjoys talking to me now This from a man who acted like I had cooties 6 short years ago-- I have no idea what they go thru, I think mine is coming out of his MLC- but he told our S he is not really happy, and he feels he is a A** for hurting me and now is hurting OW , because you see, she wasnt the answer to his happiness either. Go figure!
You will be ok Peace, and you know, I do think eventually they do pop out of it, years and years later sometimes -but most do and then, well it depends where you are in life, for me, it would of been too late, I now know I deserve better, and he is somewhat "stuck" w/ OW.
Keep coming here tho, either mlc or surviving,just because the D papers are signed, you still can gain a lot of knowledge, love and support here.
((( Peace)))
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
