I readily agree with the 1/2 life, though in my sitch I don't think anything would have changed.
As far as intel goes. If someone is telling you its over because you are snooping, that means there is something to hide. I HAD to know because I'm basically a nosey btch and thats just how I am. I have no shame in any of the snooping I have done and have told H that. I got access to cell phone records, read his text messages, followed him, showed up to the cardroom, found out EVERYTHING I could about OW and I don't lose a wink of sleep over it. Know thine enemy... Its also not for everyone. I have read texts that tore my heart out, I have seen the obsession up close and it hurts, but it helped me and thats who it was for. Me. I am sorry now I didn't confront the Trollin person, but it was probably divine intervention as I can't be sure I wouldn't have ended up in that back of a cop car.
(((Dan)) I'm with you on the GAL thing. Its probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do and I'm really not doing that great at it. But I'm trying and its helping me to step away from the contstant drama and BS and focus on me and the kids. Its nice. It feels good to be out of the cyclone. Everyone does it in their own way and in their own time. It took this for me to recognize that I didn't have a life either. My life has been the kids, which is great don't get me wrong, but I'm now making time to be with friends, going to school, going to the gym...making me a priority, which is something I haven't done in so long. You are doing great, this is hard and everyone has to go through it their own way. I'm just so fortunate that I found this site and all of you. I can't imagine having to try and do this flying blind.
I would have probably snapped by now. Postal Sugar is NOT a good thing!
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M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
tch and thats just how I am. I have no shame in any of the snooping I have done and have told H that. I got access to cell phone records, read his text messages, followed him, showed up to the cardroom, found out EVERYTHING I could about OW and I don't lose a wink of sleep over it. Know thine enemy... Its also not for everyone. I have read texts that tore my heart out, I have seen the obsession up close and it hurts, but it helped me and thats who it was for. Me. I am sorry now I didn't confront the Trollin person, but it was probably divine intervention as I can't be sure I wouldn't have ended up in that back of a cop car.