Trying ... well if you can call it that, I guess.

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Abbey, I've been reading and I cant believe this business with your H and your 'affair'. Does he really really believe that you did, but you really didnt !?? Thats incredible.

It seems to be a big stumbling block for you and you are clearly angry about it. I dont know, i am sure others would disagree, but is there anymore you could do to convince him that its not true? Can the other guy confirm to him that you never had a PA with him? Or could you write a letter denying it one last time? It seems grossly unfair to me and I cant stand injustice like that, to be accused of something you didnt do and for it to have such huge implications, I feel angry for you!

Hey well done on passing the exam, thats huge and its really hard to concentrate at a time like this. Whats this fun you have planned for the summer??

I am amazed that your H is having an A with a 27 year old with 4 kids and no wonder her H is cut up that she has walked out (shes a WAS right!). Her kids must be very young, if she is only 27. Thats alot for your H to take on, its mind boggling. Neverlone that its totally and utterly unhealthy to walk straight out of a 19 year R into another R, with no gap in between. It sounds like your H is indeed running from something.

You are right to go NC I think in this sitch, as he has treated you unfairly and it clearly hurts you so much, I guess nothing can be gained from trying to see him....although do you follow Lisas thread? (OneDay) - she has continued to see her H and be his friend and act as if around him, eventhough he has had an OW for a year now. She is very strong and I dont know how she does it, but her H continues to want to see her. Just a thought.

Thinking of you Abbey, glad you are keeping your chin up and trying to get on and do a few things for yourself. Its really unfair this life change thats landed on you, as it is for most of us here, but maybe some good will come out of it afterall...

Ali xxx