it's natural to mourn the end of your M. This is not what anyone wants on their wedding day. A chapter of your life is closing, and it's going to hurt. I suspect your W probably feels it too, even if she doesn't show it.
But as one door closes, another one opens. It seems to me you're not going to spend too long looking at the closed door but go through that new one. But don't feel bad about allowing yourself a little mourning period, it's perfectly understandable.
Was just out on the patio listening to a CD ... one of the songs which played had some lyrics which made me think of you: "Take a deep breath, and ask yourself the question Is this my death? Or is it just a new direction? Take a deep breath and go ah-ah ah-ah ah-ahah..."
So take that deep breath .... and when you're ready, go for your new direction.
One final note - thank YOU too, you have been superb at talking me off the ledge a couple of times. Thank you. I'm hoping to get over to the USA next year (a friend's wedding in Florida) and I hope I would be able to meet you, and others on here, in person. You are one great guy!
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.