okay so here's a quandry that i've been thinking about...
how do i implement my goals, yet detach and make changes for myself? if i'm watching for her reaction to my action, am i really detached? or is that unconditional love?
just a question.....
Hey Neil Still have not caught up on your whole story, but popped in and saw this. Guess I know now why you said people are giving us the same advice.
I did a real good job at detaching last night....NOT. Out to dinner with wife, got drunk, ML, etc, etc.
Then the way she acted and the things she said, just make it even harder to think about not spending time with her.
Will start over tonight and try again. It is just so freakin hard trying to make myself WANT to be away from her and go do things on my own. Thinking the best start will be work around the house. Even though that will not get me away from her, it is my GAL, and a long standing issue in our marriage. Whether I end up with her in that house or not, there are things that I can do that will just plain make her happy.
That is MY best idea for loving her unconditionally. Doing anything and everything I can to give her the "nest" she always wanted, whether I am there with her or not.
