Thanks K and everyone else for you thoughts and encouragement. Part of piecing (I guess) is this nagging feeling that this can all go south in a flash. I most still be a little gun shy.
You must be busy getting a life.. or making a life with your family! Either way, I'm very happy for you.
And I may be wrong but I think its wise to be somewhat guarded when your spouse first returns.. it should be proven through time and effort that someone is trustworthy.
I am not gone ...... I am up to date on all your sitches....I don't post as much as I used to, but I assure you that I am following right along. I noticed a little something, when things are going well, we tend to be more easygoing regarding the WASs on other threads. When things are not going well in our own sitch, we are much tougher. Since things are going well for me right now, I am inclined to give all WASs the benefit of the doubt. I tend not to post as much because my view of things is that everything is possible. However, in some sitches the LBS seems to have given up or the WAS is so far gone..... I don't know if any of this makes any sense. In a nutshell....only because I post less does not mean that I am not reading and rooting for all of you to get to piecing and beyond. Things are going very well for me / us right now. We just need to build on the momentum that we are creating. I am more aware of what got us in this mess and am therefore trying to not fall into the same patterns.
You are right Lan. We have to suck it in. I'd like to share a funny situation....or at least I think it's funny. Not in a haha way though. I snuck out today for a little golf game. My W called me on it and asked if I snuck away. For some reason I decided to not be truthful and told myself if she lied about various things including her whereabouts for a week, why should I even feel bad about lying about where I was for 4 hrs. I know this isn't neccesarily the right thing to do but............hey it's not like I was golfing in Mexico.