Bring on the Rain - Part 4

[SueS]

It looks like my family will be coming in early next week. They're looking forward to the weekend. It will be nice to have them here.

Journaling............

Quiet night at home last night. D4 and I hung out and just did a few other things for the move. She wanted so badly to help me with my room, but I had her relax, while I did some things. Not sure when H got home. He went to see Tom Petty last night, on what I can only surmise was a date with OW. You know, there have been times that I know he's walked out of our door to go see OW. This time was different, as I know he had a "planned" date with her......dinner, concert. I think lwb talked about this kind of a deal once when her H had a "date" with his OW. Just an odd feeling. I didn't cry. It was just....odd. Something I'm ready to get away from.

I called home this morning to talk to D4. These are some of the details of my convo. with H.....
Today he asked me what was up for Saturday as far as getting my things moved. I told him that I'd decided not to do it on Sat. because there was too much going on and too much to be done before then. I told him that I'd have my family help me when they came in next week. He got mad and said.....Fine, I'll get my stuff out this weekend. Then he turned around again said that he could at least still help me get some of my heavy stuff moved this weekend. I told him that I need to get things out of storage also. He asked me what. I listed the items.

Then, he announces that D4 will need to go stay with my family for........a month. He can't afford to pay for daycare for next month. My response: WHAT??? A MONTH??? He went on about how he has to figure everything out. He doesn't have the money to pay for her to go to daycare next month. With his DUI he has to find a way to get to work for the next 2 weeks (suspended lic.). He has to find a place to stay. He has to do this and that...etc. I was angry and every time that I pushed it, he became more upset. I feel as if I have no choice but to do this, as I can afford our expenses, but not adding all of daycare on top of it. I told him that now that baseball is over, I'll ask my dad to come down for a couple weeks. He was dumbfounded and asks WHY??? Ah, because I refuse to be without D4 for a month. I stopped just short of saying.....I'm amazed that you'd want her gone that long. But, I guess I'm not amazed.

Then D4 tells me that daddy is picking her up early tomorrow from school to go see The BoDeans in concert. I knew he had 3 tickets and that he had originally ordered them for the 3 of us us (bought them a month ago) but he'd refused to ask me if I'd go with them after all the crap that's happened the past few weeks. I got him on the phone and said, What is she talking about? He said, I'm taking her to a festival nearby to see The BoDeans tomorrow. (We took her last year in downtown Minneapolis-outdoor show). I said, When were you going to tell me? He said, I don't have to tell you. I said, YES YOU DO! What the hell, were you thinking that I'd get to daycare to pick her up tomorrow and she wouldn't be there????? He said, fine, then see if you can get off work early and you can go with. As much as I don't want to, I do not trust him to make the right decisions right now so I will go. A friend of mine said, Sue, do you really not trust him with his own daughter? I told her that as much as I'd like to, there's a part of me that is scared by his actions and comments. Not scared of what he'd do to me or of him doing something harmful to D4, but of him deciding to just leave with her. He threatened me 3 years ago (when drunk) that he was going to take her away from me and back to IN with him. I know he can't legally do that, but I still have a little of that fear.

His comment about not needing to tell me told me one thing loud and clear......I need some legal action in place.

Busy day here today. Need to run.

SueS