Kelly Jo The Wifey new thread.

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Not sure about that LolaL. With a WAS they are leaving someone they are unhappy about. When the LBS starts to change for the better it changes the situation. The WAS then can get confused and even mad because they can no longer 'hate' the LBS as much as they would like to because the LBS is getting better, therefore improving the situation and throwing a wrench into the mix.

They can react with different emotions - confusion, anger, sadness, etc...

I've seen this happen with my WAW.

Sometimes when we make ourselve better people it holds a mirror up to those around us and they don't like what they see in themselves and can't handle it - so they don't want to be around us. I saw this happen with friends I had when I quit drinking and started to improve my life. I only reminded them of what they weren't doing for themselves so they stopped hanging out with me.

I think the important thing to remember is to make the positive changes not with the intention of changing the sitch or how the other person thinks or feels, but to change because it is right for you to do and it will make YOU a better person no matter which way the situation goes.

Ken