You know Scott, we should have had a beer wager on who would get done first. I still have a shot what with that 3 month waiting period and all in Mass....
You and I both know that our marriages ended some time ago. This is just the court saying it is official. Just doesn't matter and not for nothing, but you already started a new life and have new stuff in your life that is great.
Let's take a look back shall we.
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Ok...let me just start with that I'm doing a lot better tonight. Which tells me that I am getting better...normally this kind of gut punch would have me upset for a week or more...now it's a day.
I will move on and I will be fine...even great. I got to thinking today that although I do love her, I do not want to be back with a woman who can't speak her mind, who expects me to read her mind, who bottles up her emotions and holds resentment. She does NOT argue...ever. Instead she judges you and internalizes it until she hates you. She did it to me and her sister. She did it to her dad in the past and her mom. I want no part of that. She can't accept people for who they are. It is what made me misserable. I tried to fix, i tried to understand but i was shut out. So...unless that changes, I want no part of it anyway. I can't. And that is reality.
You posted this on 9/27/07. Seems to me at that point you knew where things were heading and started moving life right along.
You have a new home for you and your kids. You are a great dad with 3 wonderful children who are no longer the headache you once thought them to be (not that they are saints and an angel), and you have a wonderful, healthy relationship with a very good woman.
You and I haven't really discussed your wife, or your marriage in a very ong time. We still use them as the resource when needed, but otherwise you outgrew her a very long time ago Swashy.
This divorce is not what you wanted, I understand andempathize with that. However, you are so much happier now. You have so much strength now. You are a much better father and friend now.
I would say that in the grand scheme of things, this has been a blessing in disguise for you and a huge loss for the woman that you once loved long ago.
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Once again, I find myself thanking everyone here for their support as my M nears its end. So THANK YOU!!!
No Swashy, thank you for letting us be a part of your journey and for giving me personally a wonderful friend and brother..........
