tell him to file for D, I bet he wont, call his bluff, and if he does, you'll be off this crazy rollercoaster, he is so unstable it's scary.
I actually agree with this. Calmly say "if that's what you want to do, I won't stand in your way" (no sarcasm). Again, the last thing he would expect from you.
I've told him that. I told him I wouldn't try to stop him and I won't contest it. A couple weeks ago he was asking me to choose an attorney. When I actual picked up the attorney paperwork (at his insistence) is when he got mad saying, "don't you even care? This isn't what I want." It's maddening. No matter what I do, it's not going to be the right thing.
I don't think he'll be able to afford an apt in Santa Maria unless we sell the house. So, I don't really see him going without me. We'll see.
Last night he threw out the Ephesians 5 verse about "Wives submit to your husbands. Husbands love your wives, etc..." I told him I haven't felt loved by him in a long time. He said it's not tit for tat. I'm to submit out of obedience to God, and he is to love me in obedience to God. I know he's right, but Christ! We don't even live together! He stopped going to church long ago. He wants to lead me, but he isn't following God. How can I follow him??
I DID read husbands threads. The difference is his wife was willing to go to Retro. My husband refuses everything (mc,retro, etc...)
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
