hahahahahahaha.........okay, okay guys. I knew that was coming sooner or later about the long post. lol

WDID, You have had a shot in the arm of "feelings" that you desparately needed, but it's kind of like a honeymoon phase and I think that it may start to calm down a little bit, so I hope while you are still enjoying this good time and have the encouragement you needed emotionally, you can learn also that you need to make some decisions to love and to be happy by choice. That was real easy for me to say.....not always so easy to act upon. Nobody can "make" us happy and I had to learn that through the years. I thought at 18 when I got married that my H was suppose to make me happy....that marriage was suppose to make me happy. But, it didn't. I didn't have the tools that I needed when I got married to handle what laid before me.

There are two books that may be of help to you, but you have to read it with an open mind. One has already been mentioned to you and that is "Love is a Choice" and I have even argured with some about that b/c I was not in the right frame of mind. The other is "Happiness is a Choice" and I can't remember who wrote it, but you can usually find it where Christian books are sold. It was written several years ago, but I'm sure you could still find it....maybe on Amazon.

I brought this up b/c I know that you can't survive on good feelings all the time. I also know that you are not through the woods yet and you need to get stronger by just being resolved to not enter back into that situation you were in before with OM. The first sign of discouragement will be a tempatation to you, so be prepared by having the information or "tools" under you belt to fight the negative times. Again, I am so glad that you did get this "shot in the arm" that you needed....and for your H also! I'm sure he feels like both of you have been given another chance. You have! You are still young and can have a wonderful life together. Make each day count for good.

Sandi

(How was that guys? lol)

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!