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[TwinDad]

"Lessons in DBing.....Cheeseless Tunnels and Acting As-If"

Just thougt I would posta little "blog" about last night. Things have been going very well in my sitch and I actually feel happier than I have in a long time. We had been looking at houses lately to move into yet again and one of the houses required a good bit of work but was an excellent price. We looked at it yesterday and then went out, so we never got to discuss it. My W then brings it up wheil we are in bed and I express a couple financial concerns about it presenting in a new way that she seems to respond to much better. Despite this, she pushes me away and says "go to sleep".

I decide to let this wash off back and not worry about it, but I can tell she is upset about it not looking like we can get this house and frustrated. I roll over and turn the fan on and then ask her if she wanted it blowing on her (figuring I would just go to bed)......

No response. I wait a couple minutes and then say "huh" as in could you at least answer me it is a simple question.....Cheeseless Tunnel #1

A couple minutes go by and I say "Ok honey, whats wrong" followed by no response and then followed by me saying "huh" with the same response.......Cheeseless Tunnel #2 (where is that cheese....lol, I know it is dark but did I go down the same tunnel)

A few more minutes go by and I turn off the fan and just lay there, fuguring if she is going to say something then she will just say it.....no response for a while.....Cheeseless tunnel #3 (does that make 3 blind mice)

A few minutes go by and she just says "I just want to go to sleep". I respond, with "that is fine, this started with a simple question about the fan and you decided to be rude to me, I didn't deserve to be treated like that"......a 180 for me

So we both slept through the night and I told myself that I was going to act "as if". In the morning, I could tell she was tense, but I continued to be upbeat. We both had a doctors appointment to go to and I continued to act as if. She started to smile more and by the time we left she initiated a hug before we went to work.

This stuff really does work, you just have to be able to look at yourself and decided what is working and what isn't.

Thanks for letting me share