Losing, in a curious way, is winning.

[Bridgestone]

So.. you went to the C.. for communication training.. and came home with a bucket full of crap. It happens. That "person" sitting in that chair.. with the degree.. expects both of you to get it. The C was showing you something.. you both get a F.

Yep.. for the end results that day I agree, however, I am happy with my effort for as long as I made it. 2 hours home in the car with him after being 2 hours in the car to C and an hour in C, was a long time for me interacting with him. It will hopefully get better as we use the tools more.

4 days ago- Went dark, minimal contact only for the kids, GAL

So... the question becomes.. is this not a "repeat" of what has happened before? At some point.. this tool worked. Stop using it.. this tool does not smell like cheese.

It did work, at least from my perspective. It quit giving him/me/us the opportunity to digress down the old spiral/circle/pattern. Provided breathing room, thinking time, processing time, energy building time. Sometimes going dark is just as much for me as for him.

3 days ago- GAL continued, told H. I can't control his choices, & he has to live with the consequences. He talked, I listened (nothing new there) but SC's bubble analogy made all the difference for me. Forgave H for his lies from 5 days ago, asked him to quit pushing me and this tenuous R back to a M before it is ready. He agreed.

Right here.. you made a choice. You expressed it.. and it worked. Right here would be a focus point. Look at this circle.. and figure out how you got there.

by having space, thinking time, processing time, energy rebuilding time to have my confidence to state what I wanted outloud in the room

Keep your head up Bridgestone... it is the only way you can see whats coming.

I'm trying to forrest thanks for the neck brace