Wow I had just recently started reading your thread and hadn't realized just how recent the bomb was for you!! You are doing incredibly well. I know you don't always FEEL it but you are really seeming cool, calm, composed. That's a huge accomplishment.
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How do you resolve that stuff? Talking with him at this point, even in MC, is just a replay of the same nonsense.
I think that's the biggest problem - the one person who we hope can help us resolve it, answer the questions, etc. CAN'T help. They can give some answers, but nothing that's going to make us go "Ohhh that's why you're tearing our family apart."
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I know that I will move through stages of grief and it won't hurt as much as it does now. It may begin to make a little more sense once I'm not so raw.
Absolutely, it will hurt less and less, and the duration of the hurt will get shorter. And it may make more sense eventually too - but if it doesn't, that's OK too.
Detaching will help tremendously. It's the hardest thing to do, but also the most beneficial to you. When you can step back and look at your H's behavior without it affecting you much, you'll feel so much better (I know, hard to believe it can happen, but keep working at it - you'll get there).
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
