First Month of Separation, No Hope

[LosingSunshine]

Ken,

You need to let these things slide. You need to have thick skin and not let these things bother you. They will come to see the truth but only if you stay strong and focused on what is right. Patience and strength.

I know in my sitch, that my W told her parents that we are getting a D because of my non-stop drinking. Now, her mom divorced her dad because he was a raging alcoholic that was abusive. I am neither of those and my w was an enabler. I drank to cope with stress from job (a few beers or glasses of wine a night) and because I could (on the weekends, she wouldn't to take care of kids so I would. If the guys came over, I would a lot). Never any abuse but her parents wouldn't know. Now how the heck do I change their view? I can't right now. But in time, they and all her friends, will come to see that there must have been other issues which there are. It won't happen over night but it will, I know. It may only happen after she repeats her mistakes and ends up with a 2nd D down the road. Patience and strength.

Chris