One of you has got to figure out how to break out of these cycles if you're going to progress. Based on apparent emotional abilities, I'd say that person is going to be you. Which you probably don't want to hear. But if you aren't willing to leave, then you're going to need to do a better job of showing him what you want in a way he can hear.
I'm trying to.. that is part of the reason we are in counseling for communication and I'm in C. for self-esteem & co-dependency.
But as it goes, it seems like with any counseling it is getting worse (hopefully before it gets better). The C yesterday (we went again yesterday) said it is common as a couple tries new tools it upsets the balance of how we hear & listen & we are out of our comfort zone. So while it hurts and things get said & heard differently, it also is a good sign that we are both changing.
Patience and space. both seem to be helping. the crash after counseling yesterday didn't seem as severe or as long lasting.
He went with me to Wally world to pick out a dremel for DIY projects (could have used one to trim the pipe in the bathroom sink the other night) and it went well. It was comfortable and enjoyable. He wanted to walk around Wally World & get ideas for hobbies.
He also for the first time last night opened up a lot about his view of himself as a workaholic and how it impacted his view of the M and me and the kids.
Originally Posted By: lodo
So, back to those creative juices. If you go to DC and stay in a separate room, how can you do that in a way that sends a positive message?
Not sure how to make it a 'positive' message. Suggestions?
lodo
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