H is broken heart over OW

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H worked in another state for two years, he lost his job, part of why he is depressed and the other part is giving up his OW. I really don't think he realized until he came home in May how emotionally attached he became to her. It has only been two weeks since he has had last contact with her (I am choosing to believe this until I find out otherwise) I gave him the section of the DR book about affairs and what to do if you were the one having the affair. He did read it and that is why he ended contact with her. Until then he kept talking to her. He is on antidepressants now and right now it feels like we are in a holding pattern, small steps are happening, talking, holding hands sometimes (he wants very little physical contact with me, but has assured me that it is not "personal" and "it will come back" not sure if I belive him or not) we have discussed the affair as well as tried to spend lots of time together. He keeps saying he knows that his family is the best choice and I am wonderful to put up with this but I know those intense feelings he has for her have to diminsih a little - he seems to be begining to realize that what he had with her was not real - like two teenages with no parents around - and he even said we have so much more. I am trying to start acting normal aournd the house, that is one thing, I hate the person I seem to have become, so getting back in my normal routine and hope that at least helps me.