Your sitch is a mirror of mine. (except my son is 11) and we are not moving. It was my last chance also. I so hope she will go. and as you said. even if your M is not saved. This is the first thing that I have ever done that has changed ME and only in two weeks..
Take Care buddy Sending good vibes your wifes and your way
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know