I've found out that my W has been spreading lies about me to her friends and family in town, even making similar attempts in the church we attended, but to which now I alone go. It has taken its toll. Her daughter claims I turned on her, yet, such is not the case.
I also believed I saw W riding in car with guy who used to be our landlord the first 4 and a half years of our marriage. She was the one who originally got an efficiency from him when she first left me in 1989. I think I have sufficient proof for myself now that she has had a long and sometimes interrupted affais with this man since before we were married.
This is enough to convince me that, even if we were to reunite, she would continue to play around and lie about it. She enjoys it too much. I don't want her back.