I totally disagree with you taking responsibility for not giving your husband "what he needed". You, like me, am not a mindreader. What is frustrating is that when they do tell you ,as mine did in counseling, and you start to follow their wishes to the letter, they come back with "Please stop doing that. I know what you're trying to do and I find it annoying". Now what? Game, set, match..... Don't beat youself up over that!
