So I guess you're in Denver? My W has family in Boulder and I used to live in Durango. But lodo comes from somewhere else.
There's a book that I've thought about a lot - "Too good to leave, to bad to stay". Sounds like your sitch. It all comes down to what we're willing to accept and forgive.
I think it's common for the WAS to concentrate on themselves and come across as selfish. They felt the buildup of bad emotions far before we ever realized it. But that is no excuse for an A, EA or PA.
Your description of the thing with the kids is similar to a new approach, but it's more complicated in your description. What I've read is that the kids stay in the family home and an additional apartment is rented in which the parents trade off living in. So you only end up paying for 2 places. Your solution is for 3 places. I think that might be more stable for the kids, but my impression is that it'd be awful for the parents, who have less resilient social lives. IMO. I don't have kids so I don't really know.
