lodo, it does seem like your W has a pattern. Selfish, self-absorbed, taking care of numero uno at the risk of all involved. That's too bad. Hopefully for her, one day she'll realize it.

So, on to the willowy one....? \:\) Tell us more about her.

Hugs.

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.