Ahh hoosiermama good points. Definitely keep your eye on the long term goal of taking the best possible care of YOU regardless of how things turn out with H.

I do wonder if you'll really get much "closure" in MC with him. My dad's going through a D from my Stepmom - and I kid you not, she sits down with him and has a heart to heart about the "why," the "what happened" all of it once a month or so. It's been 16 months or so and he still re-approaches her with all the same questions. It just isn't helping him to talk to her about it. And, you make very good points that he won't be shamed or guilted into stopping it. If it'll hurt you in other ways, probably not worth it. I know, I'm really helpful, "arguing" both sides. \:\) Just saying I can see it both ways I guess - so it's a very individual decision. Glad you have a little time to think about it.

About the "dry drunk" thing... yeah good possibility (except for the whole "I was never a drunk she was wrong" thing). One of my personal issues is getting too caught up in trying to help people to the point of it hurting me, so at least I had a chance to work on that "boundary"! I hope you'll do the same if it gets to be too much for you.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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