Alien invasion 3.0

[hoosiermama]

Hey Hoosier - I've never posted to you before but have gotten to "know" you recently from, well, you know what thread.

I just wanted to say I think you've provided a lot of excellent advice and support in a very tough situation.

On your own sitch - (((Hoosier))). I can totally relate to the need for him to admit to the A, especially if you have solid evidence. I'm glad he at least put part of it out there. I do think it's a good idea to bring it up in MC, and Puppy had a great idea on how to do it (if you can muster up the strength to do that, I know it will be tough).

Hi, NikB, and thanks for the hug! I have some emails which detail the beginning of the A--the one which discusses how they both decided to "explore their feelings for each other from a foundation of honesty and healthiness," and "finding out if they are meant to spend their lives together" (this was 2 days before the bomb) as well as how H and I "agreed to a separation" (I didn't agree to any such thing) and after he had had his talk with D12 and felt "at peace about it." Wow--I've never felt so devastated in my life as when D found out, and I wasn't even the one leaving. Anyway, I don't have anything since the beginning of the A since I no longer have access to his email; I do have a few charges that showed up in our bank acct that seem to be H stopping to pick up wine and pizza on his way to her horse farm (in the next county). If I do push this issue in MC, that will be the end of MC and I'm doubtful any good will come of it--they both know that I know, I know this has to run its course and it's in the early stages, OW will dump him for the same reasons she dumped him 22 years ago. Neither of us is going to talk him out of it, he won't be shamed or guilted into ending it because he's certain he's entitled, and he could begin to get ugly about money and visitation. Those are my initial and gut reactions, anyway. I have 2 weeks to ponder it.