when you didnt agree with the legal stuff did you say it matter-of-factly? i wonder if he wanted to fight so he said it and then you reacted well and he didnt get that reaction so he did it himself?
I did say it matter of factly, but at some points during our talk, I was fighting tears a little bit. I never cried, though, not once. When my voice caught, he perceived weakness and made fun of me a little bit. Not in a horrible way, just a little cruel.
I think that me fighting him, reacting to him, was part of our pattern, and it shocked him that I wouldn't put up with anything and walked away and was calm. Plus, it made him show his cards--he was jealous about whoever I was e-mailing.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
